Saturday, November 20, 2010

Donor embryo!

I've been talking to my husband about donor embryo for a few month's now. I brought it up a few years ago but he wanted to do traditional adoption instead. Since that is not working out for us we went back to the drawing board and he's now ready for donor embryo. We will be going to CNY. It's my friends RE in new york. I can stay with her when I cycle. She has twins from IVF/intralipids. She had multiple failed IVF's.

We will need intralipids to get pregnant since I have some immune issues but donor embryo will over ride the DQ alpha match so all we have to worry about is my elevated NK cells, my clotting disorder and my MTHFR. My abnormal eggs and the DQ alpha match were our biggest hurdles.

They will have embryo's available next week but if you pick then you have to pay the fee up front. They will allow you to wait to cycle but you have to pay the fee for the embryo's. DH wants to wait till next year so I'm not sure how long it will be till we get embryo's. Hopefully it won't be long and we can cycle next year to pick any. Im hoping their embryo's don't get picked but I"m sure they will and their program is small right now so it will take a while before they get more donated. We just dropped a ton of money on fixing up our vacant apartment unit so waiting till next year makes sense. I'm ancy to have embryo's though. I can wait to cycle but I'll feel so much better knowing we have embryo's waiting. It can take a while to get some embryo's though so not sure how long we will have to wait.

On another note I think I had a chemical last cycle. I had a 24 hour period and it was light. I tested on what would have been 17 dpo (had I not started my period) and got a very faint line. The next day the line was gone. So either it was an evap or a chemical. The line had color so who knows really. This has happened to me before though.

3 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hi, I just came across your site for the first time today. I read a bunch of your blog entries and I want to tell you to hang in there. I know you're going to be OK. I can tell that you're strong and a survivor. You, just writing this blog is a great step in the right direction. I can see that you've gone through hell and back with ART procedures, surgeries, and the adoption process. You certainly don't deserve it and who ever really does. Everyone always refers to adoption as the magic answer for us infertility-challenged people. Little do they know how complicated that is too and how much money it costs.

My husband and I have been trying for about ten years now to have a baby...well, really I have wanted two babies. We're both 46 years old and most of our friends and family silently scoff at the idea of us ever reaching parenthood because of our many failures and advanced age in the world of fertility. We went through acupuncture, 10 ART cycles, two surgeries, 4 failed pregnancies, and spent about $35,000 throughout the whole process. Well the last 20 thousand of that 35 thousand was spent on a donor egg IVF cycle. She produced great eggs and we're currently 12 weeks pregnant with twins.

I didn't get to read all of your entries, but I'm just curious…did you already try donor eggs too? I was just wondering if there was a reason you might not be able to go that route. I totally understand if it's an expense issue. The total cost for our eggs were 10 thousand and we had to pay an additional ten thousand to cover certain medical costs and the freezing process for leftover embryos...and this was with an insurance-covered cycle.

Anyway, please don't give up. People I know have told me that if they were us they would have given up long before we did and now we're going to have twins! I don't know why God had to put us through such hell to finally get here. I'm not sure how it's really helped us. I have changed in my core being because of all of our heartache, waiting, and loss and I can't necessarily say it's for the better. I guess it just is the way it is.

But along with breaking me, my experiences with this long struggle have brought a depth to life that is bittersweet, but has also made me a spiritually richer person. I'm not advocating for someone to have this experience, but you become a more special person in ways that others are not because of it.

I'm praying that you get your baby soon. Please have faith that your fortitude and sheer persistence will bring you the family that you deserve to have.

Anonymous said...

Hi, I just came across your site for the first time today. I read a bunch of your blog entries and I want to tell you to hang in there. I know you're going to be OK. I can tell that you're strong and a survivor. You, just writing this blog is a great step in the right direction. I can see that you've gone through hell and back with ART procedures, surgeries, and the adoption process. You certainly don't deserve it and who ever really does. Everyone always refers to adoption as the magic answer for us infertility-challenged people. Little do they know how complicated that is too and how much money it costs.

My husband and I have been trying for about ten years now to have a baby...well, really I have wanted two babies. We're both 46 years old and most of our friends and family silently scoff at the idea of us ever reaching parenthood because of our many failures and advanced age in the world of fertility. We went through acupuncture, 10 ART cycles, two surgeries, 4 failed pregnancies, and spent about $35,000 throughout the whole process. Well the last 20 thousand of that 35 thousand was spent on a donor egg IVF cycle. She produced great eggs and we're currently 12 weeks pregnant with twins.

I didn't get to read all of your entries, but I'm just curious…did you already try donor eggs too? I was just wondering if there was a reason you might not be able to go that route. I totally understand if it's an expense issue. The total cost for our eggs were 10 thousand and we had to pay an additional ten thousand to cover certain medical costs and the freezing process for leftover embryos...and this was with an insurance-covered cycle.

Anyway, please don't give up. People I know have told me that if they were us they would have given up long before we did and now we're going to have twins! I don't know why God had to put us through such hell to finally get here. I'm not sure how it's really helped us. I have changed in my core being because of all of our heartache, waiting, and loss and I can't necessarily say it's for the better. I guess it just is the way it is.

But along with breaking me, my experiences with this long struggle have brought a depth to life that is bittersweet, but has also made me a spiritually richer person. I'm not advocating for someone to have this experience, but you become a more special person in ways that others are not because of it.

I'm praying that you get your baby soon. Please have faith that your fortitude and sheer persistence will bring you the family that you deserve to have.

Amy said...

Thanks for your post. We prefer donor embryo over donor egg because donor embryo is only a few grand vs donor egg which is as much as traditional adoption. I wanted to do donor embryo years ago but my husband was not ready for that yet.

All in all I prefer donor embryo just because the embryo's are already created and it's way less expensive. Also with donor egg we'd still have to worry about our DQ alpha match so I'd need intralipids every month through 28 weeks. With donor embryo we only have to worry about my NK cells and clotting disorder. I will still need intralipids but only twice.