Donor Embryo FET #1

My husband and I as well as the donating couple I mentioned in my last post decided to move forward with the donation! I was shocked that our donors husband was ready to donate. I thought for sure he would want to wait. We all decided we are going to have an open donation so I talk to the wife often. Everything moved incredibly fast.

The embryo's are stored at SDFC (San Diego Fertility Center) and since their FET rates are top in the us for donor egg (the embryo's were created with an egg donor) we decided it was in our best interest to go there. Dr. Hummel said due to my past I didn't need any testing. YAY!

Our embryo transfer was 3/2. We transfered 2 perfect day 5 blasts. They were rated top quality!! 80% and 70% re expanded. My lining was fantastic (at least 12mm) so the doctor gave me an 85% chance of pregnancy. We found out a few weeks ago that our FET didn't work. We were crushed. We thought for sure this would work first try. I mean everything seemed perfect. So we have 7 more frozen embryo's waiting for us. In the mean time I'm getting an hysteroscopy done as well as testing for integrin B and will have the "endometrial scratch" or other times called "endometrial injury" the cycle prior to our FET. Supposedly it helps your lining "fix" itself and increases pregnancy rates. It doesn't hurt chances so we figured why not try it. We are un certain as to when we want to go back and do our second FET. I want to go back in June or July but I don't think my husband is ready. So we will wait. But the wait is torture.

Thyroid again

A few years ago while doing the CCT in prep for my 4th IVF we discovered that my TSH was elevated. (this was on a natural cycle) during my CCT my TSH skyrocketed to almost a 6. I immediately went to an endo and after more blood work confirmed I had hypothyroidism I went on levoxyl. When I stopped IVF treatments I went hyper. My levels dropped so my endo lowered my levoxyl. We have determined that my thyroid is highly effected by hormone fluxuations. When on the BCP to induce lacation, and while breast feeding my TSH skyrocketed again and my levoxyl had to be increased. when I stopped breast feeding my levels lowered but I was feeling fine so my meds stayed the same. It's been 6 month's since I stopped breast feeding (for our failed placement I induced lactation). Lately I have been feeling exhausted 24/7. I can't seem to get fully awake. It's like I"m in a fog all the time. I called my endo and he ordered blood work right away. My TSH has shot up to a 4.4 so my meds are being increased. However I have noticed a few side effects. One of which is depression. I have been really depressed for the past few weeks to a month and it's not getting better. I will probably have to call my OB but it's one of the side effects of hypothyroidism so I'm certain that once my TSH levels go down to a "normal" range I'll start to feel better. But in the mean time I'm miserable. I try to keep myself busy...that seems to help but when something goes wrong (like if I don't like how the dress I sewed came out) I'll get really upset. It's quite annoying actually.

On the donor embryo side we have met a person on a embryo matching site who wants to donate her 9 left over embryo's to us but she doesn't think her husband is ready. We should find out soon since she plans on talking to him but I have a feeling he's not ready to donate yet. They both definitely want to donate and she's ready now but he may want to wait a few more years. It's a huge decision so I completely understand. If this match doesn't work out I may take a break from all this until after my thyroid and depression is under control. I really do think the depression is linked to my hormones. My migraines are also hormone related. When I was lactating I had NO headaches at all. It was great!

So that about sums it up I guess. Part of me just wants to be done with TTC all together. When we chose adoption I was fine with knowing that I'd never be pregnant. Now that we are looking into donor embryo I have started to get envy for pregnant woman again. Longing to know what it's like. I also know what it's like to be a mom (even if it was short lived) so that makes the longing a tad harder then before too. Although coupled with that is knowing how hard it can be as well. So at least we will be more fully prepared next time. Breast feeding for me was an awful experience. I got mastitis 3 times and also got thrush. The thrush is what did me in. I started using bottles but it was hard to give in because I prepped for lactating. I pumped every 2 or 3 hours daily around the clock for month's. I'll definitely give BFing a chance again if we ever get pregnant but at least now I know how hard it can be. Every one warns you about lack of sleep but it was the breast feeding that was frustrating. Waking up wouldn't have been fine if my boob didn't feel like it was on fire when ever I breast fed him. Frustrated mom meant frustrated baby. And often I'd wake DH up and have him calm the baby down while I went to heat up a bottle.

Well it's late and I'm just rambling so I suppose I should get to bed.

Holiday blues

I can't seem to get myself out of this funk. I get more depressed every day. The holidays are always hard but usually not this hard. I think it's because I know we have come to the end of the road. If donor embryo's don't work then we are done.

I messaged a few people on miracles waiting and haven't heard back. I have a feeling it's not going to work out. I'm hoping for a private match. I would prefer to know the donors and to have a relationship with them.

Anyhow, I don't really feel like talking about all this so I think I'll go find something to do.

The waiting game...

Hubby and I decided to put a profile up on miracles waiting in hopes of trying to get matched sooner rather then later. It's only been up for a few days now so we'll see. The moderator offered to email an expired profile for me. I found a profile I really really liked but it expired the end of August so I couldn't contact them. She emailed them Monday and hasn't heard back so I don't think anything will come of it.

A friend of mine has a friend, who has a friend (still following me?) who got pregnant with triplets from IVF and has 12 frozen embryo's left over. She doesn't want any more children so she's going to sign the paperwork to donate her embryo's to CNY. My friend and her friend (and her friend) are all patients with CNY. My friend is going to tell her friend about me in hopes that the person who wants to donate will think about maybe donating to us instead of giving them to CNY. We'd still cycle with CNY (they are 1/2 the price of most places) though. Clearly we don't need 12 embryo's but having lots to chose from would be nice since we want more then just a couple children.

I'd LOVE to be matched with embryo's by Christmas. Ideally I'd love to be able to cycle in February or March of 2011 but I'm not sure that will happen. Getting matched can take a while so we just have to be patient.

To late

So CNY put up their embryo's while I was at work. I've been waiting a few month's for them to put them up so I was anxious. There were 2 profiles. I quickly scanned them since I shouldn't be doing it at work and emailed her with my choice. That was around 11:30. She emailed me back and let me know that the profile I picked only had 1 embryo. OOPS. So I re read the profiles and decided not only did the other one have 3 but I liked the profile better. Unfortunately it was taken at noon. So we decided that paying $3,000 and traveling to NY for one embryo was not ideal. There were more in the batch that someone else had used. She transfered 3 and got pregnant with triplets then reduced to one. I wish she hadn't told me that cause I'll admit I got upset. If you didn't want to risk more then 1 baby then only transfer 1 at a time.

So I listed a profile on miracles waiting and we are currently waiting for a match. I found a profile I LOVE but it's expired so the woman who manages miracles waiting is emailing them for me. Hopefully they are still avaialble but so far I haven't heard anything yet.

anxiously waiting

My hubby and I are anxiously waiting to pick out embryo's. Profiles should be available this week! I'm hoping we can do our FET in February but not sure if that is pushing it. We shall see!

Donor embryo!

I've been talking to my husband about donor embryo for a few month's now. I brought it up a few years ago but he wanted to do traditional adoption instead. Since that is not working out for us we went back to the drawing board and he's now ready for donor embryo. We will be going to CNY. It's my friends RE in new york. I can stay with her when I cycle. She has twins from IVF/intralipids. She had multiple failed IVF's.

We will need intralipids to get pregnant since I have some immune issues but donor embryo will over ride the DQ alpha match so all we have to worry about is my elevated NK cells, my clotting disorder and my MTHFR. My abnormal eggs and the DQ alpha match were our biggest hurdles.

They will have embryo's available next week but if you pick then you have to pay the fee up front. They will allow you to wait to cycle but you have to pay the fee for the embryo's. DH wants to wait till next year so I'm not sure how long it will be till we get embryo's. Hopefully it won't be long and we can cycle next year to pick any. Im hoping their embryo's don't get picked but I"m sure they will and their program is small right now so it will take a while before they get more donated. We just dropped a ton of money on fixing up our vacant apartment unit so waiting till next year makes sense. I'm ancy to have embryo's though. I can wait to cycle but I'll feel so much better knowing we have embryo's waiting. It can take a while to get some embryo's though so not sure how long we will have to wait.

On another note I think I had a chemical last cycle. I had a 24 hour period and it was light. I tested on what would have been 17 dpo (had I not started my period) and got a very faint line. The next day the line was gone. So either it was an evap or a chemical. The line had color so who knows really. This has happened to me before though.