Monday, January 14, 2008

vent

Man people on FF can really get defensive. Now I remember why I stay away from most of the boards. I stick to my buddy groups and the IVF recyclers forum. I never ever butt heads with the girls there. The only reason I still have a membership is because of the friendships I have made.

I realize that being in your twenties and 30's is considered "young" but it kind of also irritates me when woman in their mid to late 30's say they are still "young" in the TTC game when that is just not the truth (in my opinion) in you late 30's your body really starts to wind down. There is a good reason that over 35 you can see a specialist after 6 months...and you can transfer more then 2 embryo's with IVF. The fact of the matter is with lots of woman your egg quality starts to slowly diminish. It bothers me that just because woman are waiting to have kids (for what ever reasons) till their 40's it makes us that are in their 20's and 30's very "young". I can't even go on to describe how much that bothers me.

anyhow, I had to get that off my chest. I think I'll stay away from FF today.

3 comments:

M said...

Unfortunately, you are right Amy. A friend of mine is only 33 and she has gone through many clomid/ iui cycles without any luck. Her RE told her that her only problem is that she is old. Not old in terms of her general health. But just plain "reproductively old." Unfortunately, one of the ironies of life is that women are at their reproductive peaks before they even become women: 15,16,or 17 years old. Not fair if you ask me, but it seems to be just how it is. For many of us as we approach 30 or so it takes a whole lot of eggies and a whole lot of months to find the right one!

Jennifer said...

Good point, Amy. I sometimes run into conflicting views on those boards too, but I too have found many wonderful friends there as well - so I stay on!

MamaSoon said...

Hi again. I didn't know if you were still dismayed with your forum. Mine is AWESOME. No one ever fights or is anything but supportive of one another. I've never seen anything like it. If you ever get interested, take a peek: http://forums.fertilitycommunity.com/vitro-fertilization-ivf/